So how do you let go of that negative connotation and free yourself to use masturbation however you want? By helping clarify the truth about masturbation — that there's nothing wrong with it. “Men who do grow up to be comfortable masturbating, are often uncomfortable performing this act in front of their partner. It is a shame that people feel like they need to keep this natural act so private. A man who is comfortable sharing masturbation as a form of intimacy with their partner may experience more intense pleasure,” Hochberger explains.